Have you ever felt like an outcast from your bf's life?
With him, everything is just so passive. We never fight, we never argue... but then again... I barely see him. The most I see him is twice a week - and this is during a class. After class he heads to work, and I go home. Even during the times away from each other, there's barely any communication happening. He doesn't always reply text messages, and even when that rare moment happens, he always ends the conversations. They are always close ended replies which makes it impossible to continue convo's without rambling on to another topic - which I do, but he hates rambles... so I don't do it often. We never talk on the phone anymore. He was never really a phone person to begin with, so in consideration to his preference, I started texting more than I phone. And unfortunately, he barely he replies those (as I mentioned earlier).
But the source of the problem runs deeper than that, much more than not talking literally, but in a sense that the topics lack personalization. When he talks to me, everything is so general. Much like what you would say to someone you've just met. He never tells me about his friends, his family, his life, his feelings, he doesnt rant, heck, he doesnt even tell me about school!! In fact I feel like a stranger! And it makes me all the more awkward when meeting his friends, because I feel like there's various dimensions that I'm missing from him.
My biggest mistake was not talking to him about this sooner. But see, this is how I viewed it... I only see him once a week... and because of that, I felt the need to cherish what little time we spend together (it's so stupid, I know... ). I guess I didn't want to ruin the moment. I'm a pansy. I'll definitely talk it out this week though.
How many of you see your SO's 1-2 times a week with minimal communication (no phone, and 2-3 text messages a day)? Because seriously, I haven't encountered a relationship that lacks so much substance as much as my own. Don't get me wrong, I'm not putting the blame on him. It takes two people to make a relationship work... I'm just not very assertive... and only taking initiative to talk things through now.
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